After losing his son, Clifford, in August 1992 and his other son, Davey, in July 1993, Bobby Allison once said, "You will drive yourself crazy asking God "why?" You can only accept it and move on." Well, I'm in that "why?" mode, even though I know it does no good to ask.
>Why did the guy I was dating dump me? I don't know. 4 months down the drain. I can only guess he wasn't happy nor was he man enough to talk to me about it. I'll be honest - if you hurt my feelings or make me mad, I tell you. I'm not ugly about it, I don't yell, I don't cuss, I just try to explain that it hurts my feelings. I guess he doesn't like that in a woman. I'm not gonna change. Hell, I'm too old to change but you know what? I expect the same from a person I'm in a relationship with. To just walk away makes a person look like a coward. To just stop talking to someone means you feel guilty about something you've done. Either way - it ain't right.
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Why does my family favor my ex over me? No, you read it right. "MY" family. They've been saying it's because of my son but I've noticed in the last year that they only do things to help Stephen when the EX has him. Never when I do. School clothes shopping? When the ex has him. Birthday party? When the ex says so. Let me back up and say that we have joint custody but the ex is the primary. That's cuz he had been socking away money behind my back for years and had
thousands of dollars in the bank, waited till I was working part-time and threw me out. I was broke and "my" family wouldn't help me get to Court. Nothing I hate more than two-faced people, kin or not, unless it's being dumped.
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Why did I want to be "grown up" when I was little and now that I am - it sucks. Okay, my daddy died when I was 9 but he had planned well financially and my mother never ever had to work. She lived 22 years after his death and was well-taken care of the whole time. She didn't have it easy - she battled breast cancer twice and bone cancer before she died. But she never gave up until the cancer had her bed-ridden and in so much pain, she couldn't move. She was the meanest white woman alive when she was here, she never hugged me or said "I love you" like my daddy always did. I miss her more than I can tell you.
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Why am I sensitive? I am - I wear my heart on my sleeve and it gets smacked around and stomped on more than I can tell you. But I like that I am a caring person that tries to help others - even if it's cleaning out your neices' pool cuz you won't do it or teaching adults how to read (yeah, I do that) - and even though I end up getting hurt, I don't think I want to change that part about me.
>Why aren't there aren't enough caring, real people in the world? There are plenty of two-faced people and people who dump you without even discussing things - oh wait, I've already pointed that out. See, that's the stubborn part of me talking now. Yeah, I'm stubborn. Hard-headed, too. I'm also funny, loving, sensitive, giving...what? My faults? Hey, I gave you two - stubborn and hard-headed (I know, they're the same). That's enough!! See, told you I was stubborn!!